the sanctity of marriage...

...is something that i truly have no experience in...but i've seen the joys of it...and unfortunatly...i've seen the breakdown of it...many more times then i would have liked...what i know...is that it is a beautiful gift from the Lord...but one that needs constant work...will i be able to experience it one day? i guess time will tell...

when i heard the news shuffling around about eva longoria & tony parker breaking up...it made me sad...not only that it might be another divorce to hear about...but how the news was so quick to point it out...nothing much is said of the marriages that have stood the test of time...but marriages breaking apart seem to be news worthy...it is truly truly sad...and how it breaks the heart of God...

my friend Linda of "princess dominique" wrote an amazing post on it...i asked if i could post it on mine...and she graciously let me...she writes about fashion...and other "stuff"...be sure to check it out...

here it is...

Is Erin Berry the Cause of the Demise of the Eva Longoria and Tony Parker Marriage?

You never know what is at the root of a divorce. Inside Edition is speculating that Erin Berry (a friend of the couple-pictured below) has been texting back and forth with Eva’s husband. Imagine that. Someone being “that” friendly with your husband? I mean, gal pal shoe shopping aside it’s not that serious. Nowadays you have to be careful with the way you interact with people’s husbands or else someone is liable to run you over with a car. Or maybe I’m just talking about me.

The messages between them have reportedly gotten pretty STEAMY! Erin Berry is Tony’s former teammate Brent Berry’s ex-wife. My first thought is, “Why did they allow her to hang around so much in the first place?!?! I don’t get people. It’s like permissive parenting. What does that get you? A rotten child. The same thing goes for a marriage. You need boundaries that you DEMAND other people respect or else the CAN NOT be a part of your circle. Plain and simple.

On Facebook we were talking about a Pastor who said that the marriage people in his congregation need to DELETE Facebook because it is becoming a very common cause that has been brought up in counseling sessions that he’s had with couples and has been cited as a MAJOR problem.

As an advocate for marriage here are my thoughts with all the texting, Facebook and Twittering:

Couples need to do what’s best for them in term of whether to be on Facebook or not. If you hold your marriage in high esteem you will want to do everything in your power to protect it. If you see requests coming from old boy/girlfriends you need to bring that to the table, not hide the fact that you’ve reconnected with them on Facebook. That’s the beginning of deception and then you get tripped up.

I agree with what one friend (Rachel) said. Facebook (and the likes) aren’t a sin and if it wasn’t Facebook it would be something else ie. Twitter, Plurk, AIM–pick one. And Shamine (my good friend) is right too people cross the very boundaries that they set all the time and that’s proof that their marriage wasn’t their priority in the first place.

Your fruit is what tells on you. People can talk “words” all day but the evidence is the proof–what you “do” matters not what you “say”. You definitely have to search your heart on matters like this, but always also be aware that the enemy is just looking to stick his foot in your marriage. We have to learn to close the door to sin and stop using “trust” as a blanket word that makes us put on blinders.

A lot of women/men who trusted their husbands/wives are in divorce court now.

Guard your marriage and stop dragging your FRIENDS and FAMILY everywhere with you. A marriage is between two people. It’s bad enough that Eva and Tony both had their individuals careers that probably led them to spend only a limited amount of time together, but then when they do get together some miscellaneous chick on the rebound is toying with the sanctity of their marriage.

As you can see this is a RAW subject for me. Marriage is MORE than a piece of paper people–PLEASE get that.