to trust or not to trust...

the minute i heard my girlfriends voice last night on the phone...i knew something was wrong...she could barely get the words out...all she could mutter was..."i trusted him"

yeah...i know what that feels like...

but i also knew...she just needed someone to talk to...so i let her...and i listened...through her tears...she spoke of her heartbreak...her disbelief...and then she said it..."i will never trust again"

everyone has a story of how trust was broken and why they can't trust. not trusting comes naturally. actually, i think trusting came first, and then sadly we learned to distrust. once we distrust, it is hard to go back to trusting again.

the way to enriching relationships though...is trusting...

but what about people who aren't trustworthy? are you supposed to trust even when you might get hurt? what if someone has let you down? how can you trust them, and should you?

if you trust someone and they let you down, were you wrong for trusting? or were they wrong for letting you down? just because you trusted them doesn't make you a fool...if anything, we can be proud of the fact that we trusted.

so much like love...when we love someone who doesn't love us, are we fools? or are we better people for having loved, even if that love wasn't returned?

when we have a problem with trusting, we must ask ourselves this question: if i trust this person, and they let me down, what is the worst thing that could happen? the answer will reveal to us the fear that keeps us from trusting...

some of us would rather mistrust another individual and be "right" rather than gain the benefit of trusting and be wrong about the person.

i choose to believe the best in people and be sad when i am mistaken rather than believe the worst and seek to find confirmation..not trusting doesn't make you the "winner"

this...of course...does not mean that we will not be scarred in the process of learning to trust...it does not mean that we don't want others to do what they say they will or strive to honor their word...but it is to say that we know that, ultimately, there will be times when others will let us down...they will dissapoint and frustrate us...but we can choose at that point...whether their hearts toward us are good...or if their hearts are not toward us at all...